Senior Advocate

Q: How can I make this year better than last year? A: I imagine most people start a new year feeling ready for change, and ready to be better than before. But what does that really mean? I think it is important to be thoughtful about what you want out of the next year. [...]

As the year comes to a close, it is a good time to look back and review the year. I often write about the use of reminiscence as a way to create acceptance in your life. It allows you to retell your story in a way that brings closure, acceptance, and satisfaction. Reviewing the [...]

Q: My adult daughter recently said I was being stubborn because I would not let her help me. How can I explain to her that I prefer to be independent? A: As parents age it is common for adult children to want to step in and be more involved. They may make assumptions about [...]

Q: My mother has dementia, and I have trouble getting her to drink enough water. How can I encourage her to drink more water? A: Good hydration is important for everyone, but especially for people with dementia. And yet for many reasons it can be a challenge to get them to drink the water [...]

This will be the first Thanksgiving since my dad passed away, and I know things will be different this year. Grief is not a linear process. Some days we may feel like things are normal, and other days a little thing may trigger our emotions and bring the feelings of grief back to the [...]

Q: With the recent Mountain Fire and all the power outages, I am feeling anxious about what to do in an emergency. How should I prepare in case something happens to me? A: The Mountain Fire that started in early November has been a stark reminder of the dangers of fire season and high [...]

Q: The holiday season is beginning and every year I feel like it rushes by, and I always feel so stressed with all there is to do. How can I make the holidays less stressful this year? A: The holidays are often a busy time and there are many pressures to make it all [...]

Q: What is National Family Caregivers Month? A: November was first declared National Family Caregivers Month in 1997, and it has been declared every year since by the President in office. It is a time to celebrate, recognize and thank those who provide care for loved ones. Family caregivers are those who provide unpaid [...]

Q: My mother has dementia, and she keeps asking to go home even though she lives with me now. How do I convince her she is home? A: When someone with dementia is asking to go home, it usually means they want the feeling of home and the safety and security that comes with [...]

Q: What is a reverse bucket list? A: A reverse bucket list is basically the opposite of a regular bucket list. A bucket list is a list of things you want to do or achieve before you “kick the bucket.” It can be motivating and help guide people towards what is most important to them. [...]