Senior Advocate

Q: I am so worried about losing my memory and am starting to see some signs. What can I do to help my memory? A: Most people have some level of fear of developing dementia and having memory loss as they age. This fear is so prevalent because people [...]

Q: My parents resist all new technology, and I think they are missing out. How can I encourage them to  try new technology? A: Technology can feel very overwhelming to people who did not grow up using it. And yet our society has moved so quickly that anyone who [...]

Q:  I have Parkinson’s Disease. What are some gadgets or devices that might make my life easier? A: Using assistive devices to promote your own independence and safety is an excellent idea. Not only can it make things easier, but it also means saving your energy, reducing your stress, [...]

Q:  I am 80 years old and still live independently. My kids are telling me I need to think of a plan, but I am not ready. Why should I make any changes until I need to? A:  Planning for the future is important at every age. It is [...]

Q:  I am looking for a therapist. How do I know if I should look for a psychologist, a psychiatrist, an LCSW or an LMFT? A:  When looking for a therapist you will want to consider your needs and find the best match to work with you. It can [...]

Q:  I’m helping my mother move from her house into an assisted living facility next week, and I am so worried all the time. How can I make sure she will be happy there? A:  The love and care that you feel for your mother means you want the [...]

Q:  What are signs that someone is having a stroke? A:  It is vital for people to be aware of stroke symptoms so they can react quickly to get medical attention. I recently spoke with a 77-year-old woman, Angela, who had a minor stroke. She was unaware of her [...]

Q:  My husband resists being active and following the physical therapy recommendations. How can I convince him to do his exercises? A:  It can be very frustrating to see your loved one not engaging in physical activities when you know it will help them. This is very common and [...]

Q: I want to apply for food stamps, but I heard the program is being cut. Is it worth applying? A: Yes; if you are struggling to afford food and think you may qualify you should apply for benefits. What we refer to as “food stamps” is now called [...]

A few weeks ago, I asked you all to write in with your best advice. I believe our best gift to each other is to impart our wisdom and to learn from each other. That is how we grow and help the next generation move forward and prosper. We [...]

Q: My husband has dementia, and I have trouble getting him to drink enough water. How can I help keep him hydrated in the hot weather? A: People with dementia can easily become dehydrated because they may not recognize thirst in the same way. They may forget to drink [...]

I was recently on a family trip, and I ended up ordering way too much food. I had misunderstood the portions, and we sat at the table surrounded by a feast. As my family laughed about my order, I reminded them that my father would have been proud. I [...]

Q:  I am caring for my husband, and I am always so worried about what will happen next. How can I stop worrying so much about the future? A: Most caregivers understand the feeling of worry and never know what is around the next corner. They always carry their [...]

I recently heard a new term: micro-interactions. I was sharing with my co-worker the topic of my column that appeared last week on how to meet new people and make friends as an older adult. I shared the story of the 95-year-old man who enjoys conversations with the barista [...]

Q:  I am unsure how to meet new people now that I am retired. Do you have any tips on how to make new friends as an older adult? A: Meeting new people and putting yourself out there to create relationships is easier for some than for others. When [...]

Q: This will be the first Father’s Day since my dad passed away. How should I spend the day and support my mom through it? A: This will be the second Father’s Day since my father passed away. I had not discussed it ahead of time with my other [...]

Q:  I struggle to stay active and fit. What are some tips for getting my energy up as I age? A:  I imagine everyone has times when they struggle with their energy. We usually know what we should be doing, like getting exercise, eating healthy, and staying engaged. But [...]

Q:  What is this year’s theme for Older Americans Month? A:  Established in 1963, Older Americans Month (OAM) is celebrated every May. Led by a federal agency, the Administration for Community Living (ACL), OAM is a time to recognize older Americans' contributions, highlight aging trends, and reaffirm commitments to [...]

Q: My father passed away after a difficult time with dementia. People keep saying it was for the best because he is not suffering anymore, but it does not feel that way to me. How can I tell them to stop saying that? A: First of all, I am [...]

Q: I am in the process of hiring a caregiver for my husband, who has dementia. How can I be sure they do the things that I want while they are working here? A: Setting expectations and creating task lists when hiring a caregiver is important and helpful. I [...]